Top 3 best ways helping women achieve orgasm

The elusive female orgasm…its can be hard to achieve but definitely worth the effort. Women’s sexuality and sexual health is based on the ability to experience orgasm on a regular basis. Besides extreme pleasure, orgasms in women offer so much more. From improving immune and cardiovascular health, regulating menstrual cycles, reduces pain, increases pelvic floor strength and mood, women deserve these healthy side effects gained from achieving orgasms.

Yet, it is estimated that about 10% of women have never had an orgasm or have a lot of difficulty in doing so whether with a partner or through masturbation.  This inability in women to achieve climax has a name – anorgasmia – and it can lead to a great deal of stress and frustration in a woman’s sex life.

For men the ability to achieve orgasm is different.  Most men will ejaculate when their genitals are stimulated under most circumstances.  For women, it’s not that simple.  Women need to have certain things occur to experience a full-fledged orgasm.  She needs to become aroused where she has agreed to have sex, her mind needs to stay clear and focused, there needs to be blood flowing to all the right places with sexual tension building as a precursor to orgasm.

Men also need to understand that roughly only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.  It doesn’t depend on the length of intercourse, the size of a man’s penis or the strength of the relationship.  Basically, for most women, penile penetration or intercourse is not the key to their sexual satisfaction.

The reason?   Women need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm and that does not happen during intercourse as there is simply not enough direct clitoral stimulation.

Reasons some women have trouble

Most women should be able to achieve an orgasm but sometimes there are factors preventing this from happening. Here are some reasons for this:

• Medications such as antidepressants
• Hormonal deficiency – common after menopause
• Partner issues
• Medical conditions such as diabetes or hypertension
• Lack of exercise
• Smoking
• Drinking
• Sleep disorders

Any woman who has been able to achieve orgasms in the past but is now having difficulty should be evaluated by her physician.

How to help her experience orgasm

Many men will say the most important thing for them during lovemaking is to be able to please their partner to the point of ecstasy.  If that’s the case, there are certain things a man can do to make this happen to make her a very happy and satisfied recipient.  Here are a few ideas:

      Focus on foreplay

• Remember sex begins before you even get into bed. Give her subtle cues, like spontaneous kisses, hugs, giving her a massage or telling her how beautiful she is.  This helps set the mood.
• Make her feel wanted and appreciated. Don’t give the impression all you are after is just sex.  Women want to know how much you care about and love them and will turn on easier if she gets those vibes from you.
• Don’t rush sex. It’s not a race to the finish line.  Take your time experimenting.  Ask her what she wants or likes.
• Creating a romantic atmosphere is always nice. Light a few candles, have a glass of wine, help her to feel comfortable and relaxed to ease her into the mood for sex.
  

  Awaken her sweet spots

• Be a very generous lover. Give her lots of kisses, hugs, strokes of her hair before you even touch her erogenous zones – clitoris, vagina, cervix, breasts and nipples, mouth and lips. Experiment with what areas of her body she likes touched or orally stimulated.  Don’t begin with the clitoris. Try starting with other erogenous zones first such as her navel, palms of her hands, her neck or behind the knees, before automatically going for her genitals. This helps with her arousal and readiness for sexual intimacy.
• However, the stimulation of her clitoris is key to helping her achieve an orgasm. Whether this is done manually with your fingers or orally with your mouth and tongue, depends on what is exciting and a turn on for her. This is where open communication between couples is important so you are both on the same page.
  

  Be open to sexual positions suited for female orgasm

• The best sexual positions for women to achieve orgasm are those that provide maximum stimulation to the clitoris. These positions include the following:
• Woman on top: This position allows the best position for stimulation of the clitoris mainly due to the angle of the penis. When a woman is on top, she is better able to move her body in various ways to achieve the right stimulation she needs to orgasm
• Rear entry: While this position is not as good for clitoral stimulation, it still allows either the woman or her partner to reach under during sex to stimulation the clitoris.
• The missionary position is actually not the best for helping stimulate the clitoris. The angle of penetration is wrong for this and there is no best way to reach the clitoris directly with hand stimulation.
• It’s important to avoid making her feel pressured to climax through vaginal intercourse. Remember, most women do not and that’s okay.  There are many other ways this can be achieved.
• Most of all, patience and understanding are essential. Never make her feel like she is a failure or will never be able to orgasm. If she knows you are sympathetic and forgiving about the situation, she is more likely to relax and learn to let go.

If you follow all of the above suggestions and she still is unable to have an orgasm, she may need to schedule a visit with her doctor or a sex therapist that can help women overcome these blocks to a sexually satisfying experience.