All men want to be thought of as sexual dynamos in bed. For many men, enhancing sexual performance ranks mighty high on their priorities.
Most men would be perfectly happy engaging in this pleasurable experience just about every day of the week if we could, especially if everything were in tip-top condition and raring to go. However, if we neglect our health as the years roll by, we may discover the sex we enjoyed in our twenties is different from sex twenty years later.
Even if your sex life has fizzled a bit, don’t despair. There’s still time to take back this gift of life. On the other hand, if your bedroom activities are good, now is the time to take steps to preserve and protect your sexual health before problems develop.
Here are eight powerful behaviors of sexually healthy men you can start working on now:
- Focus on foreplay
Men often don’t require much foreplay, but women do. It’s not all about penetration for women. It’s about the foreplay that precedes that important part. Touching, caressing, and kissing go a long way in sparking sexual interest in women. This display of love and intimacy will hugely elevate your sexual performance. According to a 2017 study, only 18 percent of women experience an orgasm during sexual intercourse. It’s all about clitoral stimulation necessary for women to achieve climax. So, make foreplay a priority every time.
2. Be adventurous
To keep your sex life passionate and exciting, break up a sexual rut. If sexual performance has become routine and predictable for both you and your partner, a sense of fun and adventure is in order. It could be trying new positions or a new location. Or simply doing something different unrelated to sex – trying a new sport, going to a museum, cooking together – making your physical and emotional connection stronger with your partner that later carries over into the bedroom.
3. Stop smoking
Smoking is a significant cause of sexual dysfunction in men. Men who smoke are more likely to experience erectile dysfunction (ED). Years of dragging on a cigarette damage small arteries by plaque buildup, hindering good blood flow necessary for achieving an erection. Take steps now to quit smoking.
4. Feed your body wisely
Take a look at your plate. Would a registered dietitian approve it, or does it resemble more of what you might buy at a football stadium like burgers, brats, and chips? The food on your plate can directly affect your performance in bed. So fill your plate with foods brimming with nutrients, antioxidants, and fiber – they’ll keep your sexual engine running smoothly. Choose whole foods most often including fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, lean beef, poultry, fatty fish, eggs, and dairy.
5. Exercise regularly and consistently
Want to get it on? Then hit the gym, step out on the trail, jump in the pool, or hop on your bike. Living a sedentary lifestyle is a sex-life killer. Sitting around does nothing for to maintain muscle mass, keep weight in check, increase metabolism, or boost energy. And if you think exercise is vain, rethink that notion. Instead, think of it as long-term sex insurance that’s been there for you throughout the years. Men who work up a sweat doing cardiovascular training and strength training will be healthier and sexier. And there’s nothing sexier to women than a healthy man brimming with confidence, energy, and a strong libido.
6. Address relationship issues
Relationship problems outside the bedroom are surefire ways leading to relationship problems in the bedroom. If either partner feels criticized, anxious, or not respected, this can result in sexual dissatisfaction. Communication is key. Both partners need to keep communication open, honest, and free from blame or shame. Relationship challenges happen to the best of us, and if they are not resolved, it’s time to ask the advice of a counselor to repair the damage.
7. Practice stress management
A common sex killer is stress. Stress has a unique ability to make men uptight, nervous, anxious, and even exhausted. These stressful feelings are likely to spill over into your sex life. Practicing stress-management techniques can be a life-saver for bringing relaxation, harmony, and ultimately intimacy back into the bedroom.
8. Get a yearly checkup
Having an annual physical exam is basic health maintenance 101. No matter your age or stage of life, a yearly checkup is essential to your ongoing health. Your primary care physician is a valuable healthcare partner. That yearly visit is a good way for them to get to know you and vice versa. While you may see your doctor for minor illnesses and injuries throughout the year, those “sick care” visits will be focused on treating specific problems. An annual physical focuses on your overall wellness and preventive care. Annual physicals include checking your blood pressure, cholesterol, blood glucose, and body mass index. Your doctor will also review your vaccination history and may recommend getting vaccinated for the flu, pneumonia, HPV, shingles, and hepatitis B. Screenings for colon, lung, prostate, and skin cancer will be reviewed and recommended. It’s simply the best way to catch anything you’re unaware of and to discuss issues you’re concerned about, such as your sex life or lack thereof.
Dr. David Samadi is the Director of Men’s Health and Urologic Oncology at St. Francis Hospital in Long Island. He’s a renowned and highly successful board certified Urologic Oncologist Expert and Robotic Surgeon in New York City, regarded as one of the leading prostate surgeons in the U.S., with a vast expertise in prostate cancer treatment and Robotic-Assisted Laparoscopic Prostatectomy. Dr. Samadi is a medical contributor to NewsMax TV and is also the author of The Ultimate MANual, Dr. Samadi’s Guide to Men’s Health and Wellness, available online both on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Visit Dr. Samadi’s websites at robotic oncolo gy and prostate cancer 911.